Recently my husband let me stick my finger in his rectum. I was giving him oral sex at the time and I was trying to intensify things by finding his G-spot.

Where or how do I position my finger in my husband's rectum to find that G-spot to make him feel like he makes me feel when he hits my G-spot?

KAT_N_BLACK (25 year-old woman) from USA

It is generally thought that the female G-Spot and the male prostate are composed of the same tissue. The prostate, therefore, is often referred to as the male G-Spot. This might stretch the analogy a bit, as the area identified as the female G-Spot is in-and-up behind the her pubic bone and it swells as the woman becomes aroused. The male prostate, on the other hand, is deeper and resides at the neck of the bladder. In fact, it is the "valve" that "decides" if the man is going to ejaculate or urinate... men cannot come and go at the same time!

A lot of men are "goosey" about getting a rectal prostate exam by their doctor, but there is nothing erotic about this experience. With sexual arousal and in the course of sexual stimulation, anal stimulation is pleasurable for some men. Some men also enjoy stimulation of their prostate (which does contract some during ejaculation). Physicians often have to push in pretty hard and deep to reach the prostate, so some women with short fingers might not be able to get to it.

If your partner is on his back, your palm should be up. Be sure you do not have sharp fingernails, and be sure that you do not touch your own genitals with the finger you used to penetrate your partner's anus. Remember also that some men like prostate stimulation and others do not, just as some women love G-Spot stimulation and others find it distracting.

Exploring and experimenting is fun. However, there just are not any new and fantastic magical spots. Remember that human beings have been making love for millions of years. It's not likely that much has been missed!

Bob Birch