Emotional Intelligence: Queendom Study Reveals That Being Emotional-Avoiders Makes People Unhappy

Queendom uncovers interesting data about people's willingness to "watch their mouth."


Queendom.com, one of the web's foremost sources of personality, career, and IQ assessments, unveils interesting results of their most popular test, Emotional Intelligence. Results of their study reveal that EI can have a significant impact on the health of our relationships, and our satisfaction with life in general.

There is a reason why, during mummification, ancient Egyptians removed the brain completely but left the heart in the body. They felt that it was the heart, not the brain, that was the center of emotions as well as intelligence. "Emotional intelligence" in post-mummy times has become a hot buzz-word that has been linked to professional and personal success, and happiness. It's the "missing link", pioneers of EI research will say - the reason why many well-educated, "classically" intelligent people are not as successful as one would expect. Inability to deal with one's emotions, and those of others, is the basis of many interpersonal difficulties at work and at home.

Queendom's most recent revision of its immensely popular test, with over 3,000,000 test-takers since its inception in 1996, reveals just how relevant the impact of emotional intelligence is. Their data reveal that poor emotional intelligence is linked to frequent conflict situations, less satisfaction with personal relationships, and a greater discontent with life in general. Even popularity has been linked to emotional intelligence, with highly emotionally-intelligent people enjoying more approval and admiration from others.

"Emotional intelligence isn't the be-all-and-end-all," explains Dr. Jerabek, president of the company. "But its importance and relevance to success is hard to ignore. You can be the most talented, educated person with an IQ that can rival Einstein, but if you can't handle your emotions or other people's, this will hamper your chances of success. 31% of our test-takers are very uncomfortable around emotional people; 24% get upset without knowing what's bothering them; 30% have trouble expressing what they feel, and 25% totally ignore negative emotions. This is a concern. One way or another, it's going to impact their professional life, personal life, and psychological as well as physical health."

Gender differences in emotional intelligence reflect the prevailing and somber belief that women are much more comfortable with emotions than men. Queendom data reveal that women are at ease with emotions in general (score of 61 for women, 55 for men, on a scale from 0 to 100), more empathetic (score of 75 for women, 68 for men), manage conflict better (score of 64 for women, 58 for men), are socially insightful (score of 77 for women, 72 for men), and are better able to recognize emotions in others (score of 69 for women, 63 for men).

"This is just a handful of scales we're mentioning, but women actually outscored men on nearly every single one of the 30+ areas we assess on this test," points out Dr. Jerabek. "Understandably, not every culture has the same views on the appropriateness of emotions, but the gender stereotype that forces men to distance themselves from their emotions has its consequences, and does them a major disservice."

    Other tidbits from Queendom's study:
  • 11% are not comfortable when a topic of conversation switches to feelings.
  • 20% feel uncomfortable when expected to console others.
  • 22% admit that they don't know what to do when someone gets upset around them.
  • 24% are uncomfortable in situations where they are expected to display affection or appreciation.
  • 30% of people admit that they are uncomfortable in emotionally-charged situations.
  • Only 36% engage in activities that allow them to get in touch with their emotions.
  • 43% said that they will do whatever they can to keep themselves from crying.
  • Those who find themselves faced with frequent conflict scored lower than those who don't on Emotional Self-awareness, Impulse Control, Self-Control, Resilience, Comfort with Emotions, Assertiveness, Problem Solving, and Contentment, to name a few.
  • Those who are less satisfied with their life scored lower on Coping Skills, Self-esteem, Positive Mindset, Self-Motivation, Goal-Setting, and Striving, among others.

Those who wish to take the Emotional IQ Test can go to https://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=1121.

About Queendom.com
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About Psychtests AIM Inc.
Psychtests originally appeared on the internet scene in 1997. Since its inception, it has become a pre-eminent provider of psychological assessment products and services to human resource personnel, therapists, academics, researchers and a host of other professionals around the world. Psychtests staff is comprised of a dedicated team of psychologists, test developers, researchers, statisticians, writers, and artificial intelligence experts. Psychtests was founded and is led by Dr. Ilona Jerabek, a specialist in the field of psychometric assessments and Vrat Jerabek Ph. D., a researcher and authority in the field of artificial intelligence.

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