Personal Development

What it really means to be “self-aware”

by Queen D, May 30, 2018

Imagine spending a month climbing a sacred mountain, in search of the wise guru who resides in a small monastery at the top. You stretch your hand over the final peak and, drained and exhausted, pull yourself over. You plod ahead, step by painful step, to the monastery doors, your body sore, your lips and […]

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A lack of popularity is not as bad as a lack of tact

by Queen D, April 25, 2018

I’ve never quite understood the dynamics of high school, at least not my personal experience. The people who were popular were cruel, two-faced, and hateful, and totally oblivious to the amount of damage that insults and ostracism could do to the self-esteem, the very spirit, of a young, naïve mind. Those, like me, who were […]

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The Multiplicity of Empathy

by Queen D, March 21, 2018

I never truly grasped the importance of empathy until I used it with people I didn’t like…OK, that I hated. It’s easy to sympathize with a friend. Got dumped? Yup, I know how you feel, my friend. Don’t get along with your parents? I’m with you, buddy. Life stressing you out? Preach. Love picking on […]

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What it means to be a confident woman in 2018

by Queen D, March 8, 2018

The world has a pulse. When tensions are high, you can feel it. But the pulse I am feeling now is different – it’s not tense, it’s like a humming that keeps getting louder, and I can feel it reverberating all over the world. This pulse is the dawning of an age where women are […]

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Book Smarts vs. People Smarts: Why EQ may matter more than IQ

by Queen D, February 22, 2018

Without logical intelligence, your ability to reason out problems and find solutions would be limited. Playing Battleship and chess probably wouldn’t be all that fun either. Balancing a budget, doing your taxes, or slaying the beast that is long division is a challenge without mathematical intelligence. Writing a proper email and crossing the street safely […]

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Getting to the root of a need for approval

by Queen D, January 10, 2018

Facebook is not just a social media platform; it’s a viable treasure trove of case studies that are absolutely fascinating from a psychological point of view. Here’s one you might be familiar with: The people who post a seemingly infinite amount of selfies, in different outfits, with a variation of contorted “duck faces.” While the […]

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New Year, New Approach: What It Takes To Achieve Resolutions

by Queen D, January 3, 2018

If you’re like most people, your new year will start with a fervor. As the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve, people will raise their glass, bid a bittersweet farewell to the year before, and stridently promise that this year will be the best one yet. They’ll eat healthier, exercise more, and finally lose […]

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Personal Development

The Power of Emotions

by Queen D, December 6, 2017

Your emotions are a part of you. You can’t distance yourself from them; you can’t numb yourself to them. Why? Because your emotions are like a text message: Until you heed the message, it will just keep beeping annoyingly. That’s why the pain from past hurts or the fear associated with phobias only dissipates when […]

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Hate your job? Maybe it’s because you can’t take criticism

by Queen D, August 4, 2017

Criticism makes me want to curl into a little ball and do that rocking back and forth thing. But I also recognize that the person who is offering it to me knows that I have the potential to be better – to be amazing even. So yes, feel free to show me why I suck […]

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Humility Lines the Road to Success

by Queen D, July 7, 2017

There have been several memorable “thank you” speeches from athletes, actors, and other award-winners. Adrien Brody’s smooch with Halle Berry after winning the Oscar for “Best Actor”; Roberto Beningni’s chair-leaping; Michael Sam’s speech that brought many to tears, and Nelson Mandela’s powerful oration after winning the Nobel Peace Prize. There is one common thread in […]

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It's not just about feelings: Less obvious signs your EQ needs a boost

by Queen D, March 31, 2017

Several years ago, I received an email from someone who had taken our Emotional Intelligence Test on Queendom. He wasn’t very happy that he had scored low on the test, and expressed his discontent by cursing us out and calling us names that I will not reiterate in detail here, as this is generally a […]

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Golden Nuggets of Wisdom: Advice for almost any situation (Part 2)

by Queen D, March 24, 2017

In a previous blog, I decided to highlight some of the best pieces of advice we’ve developed at Queendom after 21 years of studying human behavior. Here are some more bits of wisdom: Dealing with emotions and emotional people (i.e. emotional intelligence): Recognize emotions for what they are. We have been taught that emotions are […]

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