Personal Development

Book Smarts vs. People Smarts: Why EQ may matter more than IQ

by Queen D, February 22, 2018

Without logical intelligence, your ability to reason out problems and find solutions would be limited. Playing Battleship and chess probably wouldn’t be all that fun either. Balancing a budget, doing your taxes, or slaying the beast that is long division is a challenge without mathematical intelligence. Writing a proper email and crossing the street safely […]

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Getting to the root of a need for approval

by Queen D, January 10, 2018

Facebook is not just a social media platform; it’s a viable treasure trove of case studies that are absolutely fascinating from a psychological point of view. Here’s one you might be familiar with: The people who post a seemingly infinite amount of selfies, in different outfits, with a variation of contorted “duck faces.” While the […]

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New Year, New Approach: What It Takes To Achieve Resolutions

by Queen D, January 3, 2018

If you’re like most people, your new year will start with a fervor. As the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve, people will raise their glass, bid a bittersweet farewell to the year before, and stridently promise that this year will be the best one yet. They’ll eat healthier, exercise more, and finally lose […]

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The Power of Emotions

by Queen D, December 6, 2017

Your emotions are a part of you. You can’t distance yourself from them; you can’t numb yourself to them. Why? Because your emotions are like a text message: Until you heed the message, it will just keep beeping annoyingly. That’s why the pain from past hurts or the fear associated with phobias only dissipates when […]

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Hate your job? Maybe it’s because you can’t take criticism

by Queen D, August 4, 2017

Criticism makes me want to curl into a little ball and do that rocking back and forth thing. But I also recognize that the person who is offering it to me knows that I have the potential to be better – to be amazing even. So yes, feel free to show me why I suck […]

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Humility Lines the Road to Success

by Queen D, July 7, 2017

There have been several memorable “thank you” speeches from athletes, actors, and other award-winners. Adrien Brody’s smooch with Halle Berry after winning the Oscar for “Best Actor”; Roberto Beningni’s chair-leaping; Michael Sam’s speech that brought many to tears, and Nelson Mandela’s powerful oration after winning the Nobel Peace Prize. There is one common thread in […]

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It's not just about feelings: Less obvious signs your EQ needs a boost

by Queen D, March 31, 2017

Several years ago, I received an email from someone who had taken our Emotional Intelligence Test on Queendom. He wasn’t very happy that he had scored low on the test, and expressed his discontent by cursing us out and calling us names that I will not reiterate in detail here, as this is generally a […]

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Golden Nuggets of Wisdom: Advice for almost any situation (Part 2)

by Queen D, March 24, 2017

In a previous blog, I decided to highlight some of the best pieces of advice we’ve developed at Queendom after 21 years of studying human behavior. Here are some more bits of wisdom: Dealing with emotions and emotional people (i.e. emotional intelligence): Recognize emotions for what they are. We have been taught that emotions are […]

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Golden Nuggets of Wisdom: Queendom's best pieces of advice (Part 1)

by Queen D, March 17, 2017

After my car decided to do a little jig at a red light and blink some rather dire warning lights, I found myself having to call for roadside assistance. On the way to my mechanic, the tow trucker inquired as to what I did for a living. “Research and psychometrics is the official title,” I […]

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Personal Development

My not-so-optimistic optimism advice

by Queen D, November 18, 2016

I don’t think I’ve ever been a silver-lining kind of person, even as a child. You know how kids always have that “pie-in-the-sky, everything-is-awesome” view of the world? That wasn’t me – at all. I was the Chicken Little, the doomsayer. I was the “OMG-we’re-going-to-get-in-trouble/we’re-all-gonna-die” kid. Try as might, I’m not a very good optimist. […]

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Fear of Success: Failure's slightly more attractive but still scary step-sister

by Queen D, October 7, 2016

There are some Psychology theories that will make you sit back and wonder what the heck the theorist was doing when they came up with it. Take Freud’s psychosexual developmental brainchild, the “Electra Complex” and it’s ensuing “penis envy.” I won’t go into detail here, but suffice to say that Freud really didn’t understand women […]

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Things we should have learned in school – like Emotional Intelligence

by Queen D, September 30, 2016

  To this day, I still can’t understand why we had to learn meteorological terms in school. I had no intention of becoming a weather girl. Besides, weather forecasting is about as accurate as astrology. I remember my teacher pointing at me and asking for the definition of “air pressure.” Despite being one of the […]

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