Personal Development

Words of wisdom gone wrong

by Queen D, July 28, 2016

Advice is kind of like ordering clothes online: It doesn’t fit everyone, but you’ll only really know if it will work for you if you try it. And like fashion, some words of wisdom go out of style. I always strive to offer practical tips in my blogs, but sometimes, the things I hear people […]

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Five signs you should invest in personal growth

by Queen D, June 30, 2016

1) You feel like you’re just going through the motions, existing but not really living. I call this the “running on auto-pilot” feeling. You get up in the morning and go to work because you have to pay your bills. When someone asks how you are, your response is always “fine,” even when you’re not […]

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Bet Low, Lose High: The Psychological Basis Of Low Self-Expectations

by Queen D, June 23, 2016

I’ve always found that watching sports with other people adds to the excitement. It infuses the room and everyone in it with a contagious, electric vibe. Playoff time is the only occasion when I am willing to wait an hour for a table in an already overcrowded restaurant with so-so food. I love hearing the […]

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There is always someone like you: Life lessons on Queendom

by Queen D, April 29, 2016

Recently, there has been a flood of articles on “consciousness” popping into my news feed on Facebook. Most of them discuss scientists’ attempt to come up with a theory of what it is, how to measure it, and what it means for the rest of us. This is what we love to do in the […]

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Bit by the perfectionist bug? More like mauled by the perfectionist lion

by Queen D, April 21, 2016

I was waiting on the far side of the counter at McDonald’s waiting for my tea order. As I leaned against the wall, I noticed that the topmost layer of food trays was slightly askew. I told myself NOT to fix it, even as my obsessively, compulsively directed hand reached out to push the trays […]

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Busting emotional myths

by Queen D, March 31, 2016

I cringe when I hear a parent tell a boy (and even a girl) some variation of how crying is wrong. The worst is when they add a religious twist, similar to what I was told as I child when I started crying in church (because I found – and still find – true-to-life statues […]

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Mixing the asparagus fork with the cheese fork, and other social faux pas

by Queen D, January 20, 2016

I am honestly dumbfounded by the ease at which people reveal their deepest, most humiliating secrets on one of those second-rate, no-holds-barred talk shows – in front of millions of strangers no less. I can barely speak above a whisper when talking to my pharmacist about bowel issues. This is why I kind of love […]

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New Year’s resolutions that everyone should set

by Queen D, January 6, 2016

Whether it’s the bittersweet joy of watching another year pass into history or a whole lot of champagne, there’s something about a fresh new year that inspires us to turn over new leaf. And even though some of those resolutions will crumble by March, we’re still determined to start the new year on the right foot. […]

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A case for selfishness (or a little less kindness)

by Queen D, December 16, 2015

Saturday afternoon, I watched my hairdresser as she flitted around getting my “recipe” ready. She seemed different: Her step was lighter, her head a little higher, her smile less strained. “The energy here is different,” I noted. “You like it here.” I swept my eyes across the room. There was a Christmas tree in the […]

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Things I wish I could tell my 5-year-old self

by Queen D, December 9, 2015

  Dear younger me, You’re short. Accept it. When the pediatrician said that you’d be a good 5 foot 4 he was off – by like 4 inches. Also, being the person I know you are (smart, stubborn, obsessive, creative, bored, compassionate, analytical, emotional), I’ve come up with a few pieces of wisdom to ease […]

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Life lessons learned the hard way

by Queen D, November 18, 2015

  Moms are guilt-trip ninjas. They’ll bend over backwards to do nice things for you and will insist that they don’t want anything in return – and honestly, most of the time, they don’t. But miss one dinner or phone call, and they’ll whip out the “Fine. I mean, I did give birth to you, […]

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My Victorian superego and my ugly feelings

by Queen D, September 30, 2015

I’m convinced that Victorians (i.e. people who lived through the Victorian era) must have been bloated and constipated on a regular basis. Not because of the skin-tight breeches or the “breathe-and-you-die” corsets. Do you have any idea how many rules of etiquette they had to follow? Here are just some of them, as per avictorian.com: […]

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