{"id":5539,"date":"2018-07-26T11:01:38","date_gmt":"2018-07-26T15:01:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/queendomblog.wordpress.com\/?p=5539"},"modified":"2018-07-26T11:01:38","modified_gmt":"2018-07-26T15:01:38","slug":"depression-lies-part-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.queendom.com\/blog\/?p=5539","title":{"rendered":"The lies depression will tell you (Part 3)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Let\u2019s continue our discussion (from here<\/a> and here<\/a>) on how depression, can change the content and trajectory of your thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some of the lies that your depression might be telling you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe world is a cruel place.\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I will not sugarcoat the truth: The fact is that some people can be inexplicably and intentionally cruel. However, the keyword in that sentence is \u201csome\u201d. What happens with depression is that your mood distorts your perception, where all you seem to notice and experience is negativity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During a particularly difficult time in my life I found myself teetering along the edges of depression. I could feel it beckoning me into its cold yet familiar arms. My thoughts and my mood changed dramatically \u2013 along with my perception. I starting lamenting about the unfairness of life, and couldn\u2019t understand why everything always went wrong for me. Well, it was like the universe heard me and said, \u201cWell, if that\u2019s how you perceive things to be\u2026\u201d And within a span of 15 minutes, I broke the heel right off my shoe, hit my head when I got into the car, and got pulled over by a police officer. The universe had sent me a warning: Change your thoughts\u2026or you\u2019ll be getting more of this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t sit in the dark hoping for light – go looking for it. Look for kindness and beauty everywhere. Each kind person you seek will lead you to another and another. Each blessing you count will bring you more. Don\u2019t let depression blind you to what is good in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI will be alone forever.\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Depression will entice you into isolation. It will make you feel like no one cares or could possibly understand what you are going through. It will also make you believe that no one would ever be able to love someone like you, with your seemingly never-ending list of faults. This isn\u2019t true. It feels true, especially when you\u2019ve hit emotional rock bottom, but it\u2019s just<\/u> not<\/u> true<\/u>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The neighbors who live below me helped me carry in my groceries one afternoon. After placing them on my kitchen table, they surveyed my apartment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou don\u2019t have air conditioning,\u201d the wife noted. \u201cYou poor thing.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cJust get the one that we have,\u201d the husband insisted. \u201cIt was only $1,000.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think something in my face must have revealed that, to me, a thousand dollars is not pocket change, because his wife proceeded to chastise him, reminding him that it\u2019s hard to buy luxuries when you live on your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou\u2019ll find someone,\u201d the woman reassured me. \u201cSomeone who will want to share your expenses\u2026and your life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI hope,\u201d I responded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhy hope?\u201d The husband responded gruffly. \u201cIn this world, my dear, there is someone for everyone.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t know why, but that simple comment struck a chord with me, and when I am feeling down, I remind myself of what he said.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u201cWhat\u2019s the point of trying? I won\u2019t be successful.\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Many of us have developed an erroneous view of failure\u2026probably encouraged by the fact that whenever we got a failing grade on a test, teachers would mark it with a big, red F. Failure isn\u2019t about screwing up, lacking something, or being faulty. It\u2019s simply a temporary roadblock. Failure is just another way of saying, \u201cThis way doesn\u2019t work. Try something else.\u201d The problem is that depression amplifies the negatives in our lives and squelches the positive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to try, and if you need to, try and try again. You are going to stumble and you are going to mess up, probably quite a few times. That\u2019s fine. Even the greatest achievers in history messed up many<\/em> times before succeeding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEveryone is judging me.\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

People generally fall into two categories: There are those who are so preoccupied with their own lives that they have no time to judge you, and there are those whose lives are so incredibly boring and uninspiring that the only thing that keeps them going is to cast judgment on others. Don\u2019t let them and don\u2019t let depression make you think that you deserve to be judged and found wanting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If there are people judging you, let them. Their disparagement says a lot more about their<\/em> character than it does yours, and their opinion of you is not essential on any scale. Most importantly, don\u2019t waste your time trying to live up to other people\u2019s expectations or seeking to change yourself to gain their approval. Focus on appreciating and loving yourself instead. That\u2019s the only thing that should matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOne person can\u2019t change the world.\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

My depression tends to make me a little philosophical. I go through my own personal existential crisis. I begin to think that my destiny is to be unhappy, and that my purpose in life is to bring joy to others, even if it comes at the cost of my own happiness. In general, however, I see myself as a small, insignificant blip on the global radar, just another nameless, useless face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depression will make you think that you don\u2019t matter, and that you cannot possibly have a positive impact on the world or the people around you\u2026but I totally beg to differ. History is filled with people who did just that: Rosa Parks, Nelson Mandela, Nicholas Winton, Martin Luther King Jr., and Susan B. Anthony just to name a few.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\"darkness_light\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

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Insightfully yours,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Queen D<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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