{"id":6903,"date":"2025-05-07T14:32:06","date_gmt":"2025-05-07T18:32:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.queendom.com\/blog\/?p=6903"},"modified":"2025-05-07T14:32:06","modified_gmt":"2025-05-07T18:32:06","slug":"speak-up-without-blowing-up-10-assertiveness-tricks-that-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.queendom.com\/blog\/?p=6903","title":{"rendered":"How to Be Assertive Without Being Rude: 10 Tips That Work"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I used to have a really, <em>really<\/em> hard time dealing with pushy salespeople\u2014well, to be <em>totally<\/em> honest, <em>any<\/em> salespeople, pushy or not, and <em>anyone<\/em> else who is domineering, be it friends, partners, or that girl at the gym counter who kept telling me I should keep my gym membership even though I couldn&#8217;t afford it (then she gave me that face&#8230;that disapproving face).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I still have difficulty asserting myself in some situations, which is why I almost always hand the phone over to someone much more assertive when renegotiating my phone plan, but I have improved\u2014somewhat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So why is being assertive important? I&#8217;m sure I don&#8217;t need to tell you why, but I&#8217;ll list a few reasons anyway:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>#1:<\/strong> It helps you set boundaries\u2014and stand up for yourself when people disrespect those boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>#2: <\/strong>It&#8217;s a sign of self-respect when you do not allow others to mistreat you. People won&#8217;t want to mess with someone who is confident and knows their value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>#3: <\/strong>It helps you strike the right balance between being too passive and too aggressive. You express yourself with just the right amount of emphasis so the other person <em>gets it<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So now the next question is, what&#8217;s the difference between assertiveness and aggression?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Assertiveness is firmly and confidently expressing your needs without impinging on the rights of others. Meaning, getting what you want doesn\u2019t involve steamrolling anyone or throwing a tantrum. For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Assertiveness is saying, &#8220;I&#8217;d like the last slice of pizza, please.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Aggression is saying, &#8220;I am taking that slice and there&#8217;s nothing you can do about it. Try me.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Assertiveness is like knocking on the bathroom door and waiting if it&#8217;s occupied.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Aggression is like banging on it and yelling at the person to, &#8220;Hurry up!&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Assertiveness is telling your coworker who stole your lunch (again), &#8220;Hey, I noticed my lunch has gone missing a couple of times. I&#8217;d appreciate it if we could all stick to our own food\u2014I rely on that to get through the day.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Aggressiveness is telling them, &#8220;Are you seriously that desperate that you have to steal someone&#8217;s sandwich? It&#8217;s not a buffet. Try it again and I will make you regret it.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Now that we&#8217;ve cleared that up, here are the different types of assertiveness techniques you can use on difficult people:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#1: Broken Record<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Someone is trying to wear you down and thinks &#8220;no&#8221; will eventually become &#8220;yes&#8221; if they keep trying.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Someone is ignoring your boundaries.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them:<\/strong> &#8220;Come on, just have one drink\u2014what&#8217;s the big deal!&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;No thanks, I&#8217;m good with soda.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them:<\/strong> &#8220;It&#8217;s just a glass of wine. Live a little!&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I hear you, but I&#8217;m not drinking tonight.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them:<\/strong> &#8220;Are you being that person now?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;Still not drinking tonight.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them:<\/strong> &#8220;What, are you pregnant or something?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;Nope. Just not drinking tonight.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#2: Fogging<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Someone&#8217;s criticizing or baiting you, and you don&#8217;t want to escalate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to apply it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Agree with a part of what the person is saying to defuse tension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them:<\/strong> &#8220;You always have to be so difficult.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;You might be right\u2014I definitely speak up when something feels off.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#3: <\/strong>&#8220;<strong>I<\/strong>&#8220;<strong> Statements<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You need to express yourself clearly without starting World War III.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Own your feelings and needs without blaming the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I <em>(state what you feel)<\/em> when <em>(state the issue)<\/em>. I&#8217;d like <em>(state what you want)<\/em>.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I <em>feel overwhelmed<\/em> when <em>meetings run late<\/em>. I&#8217;d like <em>to stick to the agenda more closely<\/em>.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#4: Sandwich Technique<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Giving feedback to someone who is really sensitive and\/or gets defensive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cushion the negative feedback between two positives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;You&#8217;re great at motivating the team. One thing that could help is clarifying deadlines more. But seriously, your energy is contagious.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#5: Scripting<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;re nervous or tend to freeze in conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Plan what you will say ahead of time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Internal script) &#8220;If she asks me to take on another task, I&#8217;ll say, &#8216;I&#8217;d love to help, but my plate is full. Which of my current tasks would you like me to put aside?'&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#6: Saying No (and Not Apologizing for It)<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Someone asks for something you don&#8217;t want to give or do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just say &#8220;no.&#8221; There&#8217;s no need to feel guilty, over-explain, or sound like you ran over their dog. &#8220;No&#8221; is a full sentence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them:<\/strong> &#8220;Can you cover my shift Saturday?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;No, I can&#8217;t.&#8221; (Optional add-on, but not necessary: &#8220;Hope you find someone!&#8221;)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#7: Empathic Assertion<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You want to be kind but firm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Acknowledge the other person&#8217;s feelings while standing your ground.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I get that you&#8217;re frustrated. I still can&#8217;t give you a refund without a receipt.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#8: Escalating Assertiveness<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Someone is being disrespectful or making you uncomfortable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Start politely, but get firmer if you&#8217;re being ignored.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Level 1:<\/strong> &#8220;I&#8217;d prefer if you didn&#8217;t comment on my appearance at work.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Level 2:<\/strong> &#8220;I asked you not to make comments like that.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Level 3:<\/strong> &#8220;This is the third time I&#8217;ve brought this up. If it happens again, I will to talk to HR.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#9: Listen, Then Set (or Reaffirm) Boundaries<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Someone&#8217;s emotionally charged or defensive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Reflect back what the other person is saying so they feel heard\u2014then assert your boundary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them: <\/strong>&#8220;Ugh, come on! You never come out with us anymore.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You: <\/strong>&#8220;I know it feels like I&#8217;ve been flaking lately\u2014I miss hanging out too. But I really need tonight to rest.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them: <\/strong>&#8220;I worked really hard on this\u2014I don&#8217;t think it\u2019s fair I got a C.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You: <\/strong>\u00a0&#8220;I can tell you put in effort, and I appreciate that. The grade reflects how the assignment met the criteria. I&#8217;d be happy to go over the feedback with you.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>#10: Silence (Yes, Seriously)<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Use this technique when&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Someone&#8217;s trying to manipulate, guilt-trip, or provoke you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to use it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Make eye firm contact, hold your ground, and let the awkwardness fall on them, not you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Them:<\/strong> &#8220;Remember when you cried at your own birthday party? So lame.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> *Look at them. Pause. Don&#8217;t smile. Then turn to the person next to you and start a conversation.*<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Is it possible that you will need to use more than one of these techniques on the same person? Absolutely yes. In fact, it&#8217;s not just likely, it&#8217;s practically guaranteed, sometimes within the same conversation. Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because people are&#8230; people. And some of them:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Have a hard time accepting no for an answer for a number of reasons, including a sense of entitlement, difficulty handling rejection, or a need to feel in control.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Will try to guilt-trip, deflect blame, or escalate issues in order to pressure you into backing down, often insisting that things be done strictly on their terms.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Might test your boundary repeatedly at first to see how firm you are and how easily they can get you to give in. Don&#8217;t do it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Think of assertiveness techniques like tools in a toolbox: You won&#8217;t need to use a hammer for every situation, but some people need soft firmness while others need a stronger approach. 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