Made From the Same Cookie Cutter
We all have one thing in common. Regardless of our backgrounds, our social status, our careers, our looks, or how much we have in the bank, there is one thing we all share: flaws. No one is perfect. Everyone has insecurities, weaknesses, things they don't like about themselves. It might be an inability to get close to people, a tendency to over-analyze or a fear of failure. And why does this matter? Recognizing that all people are imperfect and, specifically, that we all experience self-doubt and fear eliminates some of the walls we put up both for ourselves and between us and other people. Let me give you some examples:
- A woman decides she can't go after the career she wants because she thinks she is not as smart as other people in the field.
- A man does not approach his boss to ask for a promotion because his boss is powerful and scares him.
So many of our fears are due to the feeling, subconscious or not, that another person or group of people is above us in some way. We hold back from doing things because we compare ourselves, when we should instead see people for what they are - imperfect. Next time you feel afraid to do something, think about the people who HAVE done it (or the person you need to approach).They are human, and thus grappling with their own insecurities and fears. Give yourself this little shot of reality from time to time and the world will become a lot less intimidating!
by T.L. Scribe