"Since the house is on fire let us warm ourselves."
- Italian Proverb
Where's the darn silver lining?
Research has found that one of the key traits of resilient people, those individuals able to weather life's storms and come out on top, is PERSPECTIVE. They are able to take a step back from a situation, no matter how painful or devastating, and see it's place in the big picture of their lives. When losing a job, for example, they can consider how it may actually lead to better things or open new doors - like starting their own business or taking a new career direction. This doesn't mean that they don't feel the emotions involved with difficult life events, only that they are able to see the silver lining in every cloud.
How, you may wonder, can someone find something positive in every situation, like losing someone you love? Resilient people don't see these tough experiences as 100% good, but they can see what it has taught them or how it has made them a better person - perhaps, for example, they learned to appreciate the people in their lives more or developed stronger coping skills. If you think back to the hardest time in your life, you can surely find some ways that it made you grow, or something positive that came out of it. You might even want to make a list of these things and keep it handy for the next time you feel overwhelmed by a situation - it will remind you that, in the long run, you will be OK. Learn to find the positive side of every situation and you will be better equipped to deal with life's ups and downs.
by T.L. Scribe