"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain."
- Maya Angelou
Woe is me!
We all love a good complain now and then. We call up a friend, and let our self-pity flow like the Nile. "Poor me," "why me?","what have I done to deserve this?" are popular themes of these venting sessions. While whining to those who care enough to listen can sometimes be great therapy, it's a good idea to examine your complaining habits to see if they've gone too far. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself:
While complaining may provide brief emotional relief, it usually does more damage than good. It feeds a victim attitude that over-rides more positive approaches to life's bumps. So what can you do to curb the urge?
When you catch yourself in the middle of the dirty deed, ask yourself if it's really going to get you anywhere. Someone once said, "Every problem bares a crossroads of being a better person or a bitter person." Make the right decision when you reach those crossroads.
by T.L. Scribe