Oral sex techniques


Oral sex techniques


your avatar   Mikado, 19-year-old man

My fiancé and I enjoy giving and receiving oral sex with one another. Whenever my fiancé goes down on me she is not able to reach that base of my penis (deep throat). She tries and would like to be able to because she knows it would drive me crazy. I am about 10 inches x 2.5 inches. Are their any special techniques that she can try?


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

The "deep throat" maneuver is difficult, if not impossible, for most women because of the automatic gag reflex. There are few women (very few) who can take an erection in to the full depth of their mouth and then, with a "gulping" action allow it to enter their throat. This is not something that can be maintained, is typically only a novelty which gives no pleasure to the woman, and because it is slow, brief and mechanical, I do not think it is worth the effort and discomfort.

The head of a man's penis, and in particular the rim and the area on the underside of the head, is most sensitive and can be stimulated most effectively when the oral penetration is shallow. In a deep throat action there is no way the tongue can do what it does when there is less penetration. Most women stay near the head with their stimulation and add manual stimulation to the penile shaft and the testicles to supplement the action around the most sensitive areas.

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit: http://www.oralcaress.com/

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