Vaginal "shrinkage"?


Vaginal "shrinkage"?


your avatar   Curious (19 year-old woman)

My question is actually weird. My best friend's husband told me I could use Alam or Alav to get my vagina to shrink. I think he said it was a powder that women used to use it in the late 40's when their husband's went to war so when he came back he would not know she slept around.

I have recently been having sex with a guy who is not my boyfriend and I go home in three months. The guy I have been with is a lot bigger than my boyfriend and I know he stretched me out. How can I get my vagina to shrink? Is it possible?


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

Alum could make your mouth pucker, but it would have no effect on your vagina. Your concern is about the muscles that surround the opening of your vagina, neither Alum or any other power, spray, or ointment would tighten these. I have both a reassuring thought and, I hope, a helpful suggestion. First the thought. Vaginas are very elastic both in terms of the opening and in terms of length, for this is the birth canal and is designed to stretch. Fortunately for all concerned, the vagina typically returns to its original state after being stretched. There is a very good chance that your vaginal tightness has really not changed significantly and, after being away from your primary partner for a while, he will not notice any difference.

You might, however, wish to being doing what are called the Kegel exercises which are designed to strengthen the band of muscles that for the sling between your legs (including the muscles around the opening of your vagina). These are also the muscles that contract when you orgasm. These muscles are most easily found if, during urination, you shut off the flow. The muscles you use to do that are these muscles that are called the pubococcygeal muscles or "PC Muscles" for short. Practice squeezing these muscles with a series of squeezes several times a day. More detailed instructions can be found on the web, as the exercises are quite popular.

Try not to worry. You have not really changed that much.

Bob Birch

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit:

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