Question about anal sex


Question about anal sex


your avatar   23 year-old woman

Can anal sex be dangerous?


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

There are women who learn to be comfortable with anal intercourse and many find it enjoyable. However, the sphincter muscle around the opening of the anus, unlike the one around the opening of the vagina, is made to hold things in. Thus it is generally quite tight and tends to resist penetration. In order for anal intercourse to occur, the woman has to learn to relax that muscle enough to admit the penis. At this point it is appropriate to mention that when it comes to anal intercourse, the size of the man's penis might become an issue. Even more critical is the man's patience!

There certainly can be some tearing of the tissue at the opening and along the walls of the rectum, but using an abundance of a safe water-soluble lubricant can minimize this. Any tearing can present a risk of infection.

The man is at risk if he does not wear a condom, as the rectum and colon are teaming with bacteria. For this reason, it is essential that anything that has put into or even around the anus must not go into or around the vagina, as this puts the woman at risk of an infection. Soap and hot water are important when it comes to anal play.

Analictus (licking of the anus) and anal intercourse are practiced by some, but not by the majority of couples. It is an option that should be very carefully considered and very carefully practiced. With mutual consent, it can become a part of a couple's sexual repertoire, but should never become the only form of heterosexual expression.

Bob Birch

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit:


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