Vibrator question

Vibrator question


your avatar   51 year-old woman

After many years of marriage I find myself alone and in need of sexual release. My friends talk about vibrators, but I have no idea how a woman uses one! Please talk about this. For instance, does she insert it, or just use it for outside stimulation?


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

While a soft vibrator of reasonable size might feel good inside the vagina, most women find they receive the greatest pleasure from a vibrator when it is held against their clitoris. Vibrators differ in design and in the intensity of their vibrations, and some women need to experiment with a couple before finding one they like. Hard plastic vibrators may not be suited for internal stimulation, but many manufacturers have figured this out and are making softer and more user-friendly models. Some of the more creative ones have an attachment that stimulates the clitoris when the main body of the cylindrical vibrator is inserted.

While most vibrators are battery operated, several electric vibrators have become popular. These are often sold as body massagers and work well when used on sore muscles, but they are used sexually much more often. Many online "adult toy stores" sell a wide variety of vibrating toys.

The important thing to remember is that vibrators are very efficient and many women use them, but you will not become addicted to one. In fact, many couples play back and forth with vibrators and some have figured how to use one during intercourse.

Experiment and have fun!

Bob Birch

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit:

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