Burning after sex
QUESTION:
Patty, 20-year-old womanMy boyfriend and I have been together six months and have just become sexually active. I am a virgin and as such, I am not quite ready for intercourse. We have been trying penetration with one finger (his). My question: After penetration, which gets less painful each time, the outside, or the opening of my vagina feels very uncomfortable for the next 24-48 hours. I can only describe it as burning, not terribly but uncomfortably. Is this normal? Neither of us has an STD or is very experienced. Thanks.
ANSWER:
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist
I can only guess, but I would think that you might still be a little "up tight," both emotionally and physically. If you are not totally relaxed, the muscles surrounding the opening of your vagina will be tight. This is also true, however, if you are not fully aroused and in this case you would be both tight and dry. Those two things can surely cause residual discomfort. Make sure you are well lubricated before any penetration is attempted and try to stay relaxed.
Bob Birch
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit: http://www.oralcaress.com/