Pain after sex


Pain after sex


your avatar   Fiona (20 year-old woman)

I have recently become sexually active with my boyfriend. The sex is great, and always feels good. He has great stamina, and sometimes we have sex 3 or 4 times in one session. I enjoy this, however, I have noticed that after doing so, the skin surrounding my vagina becomes very soar, and burns. It is especially painful when I urinate. The pain subsides after a few days. Is this caused by sex too frequently? Or could there be some other reason? Thanks for your help.


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

There can at times be too much of a good thing. Pain following frequent prolonged intercourse can certainly occur, and it is more likely to be a burning sensation if the woman had begun to dry up before the activity ended. The fact that the burning during urination ends after a few days suggests it is not an infection, but is the result of trauma to that region. Try adding a safe water-soluble lubricant (such as K-Y Jelly or Astroglide) to supplement your own lubrication.

Bob Birch

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit:


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