Importance of sexual experience


Importance of sexual experience


your avatar   Crystal, 18-year-old woman

I've never had sex before and I believe in abstinence until marriage. However, I'm afraid of not being to perform in bed, and if I marry a guy with experience I don't want to be compared with the others. I don't know if I should seek a guy without experience, because I don't want us to be stupid on our wedding night and never be able to actually do it right. Should I have sex once before marriage for the experience, should I marry an experienced guy, or should I get a virgin?


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

Good sex is not about performance or skill. Good sex is about caring, respect, curiosity and the willingness to learn. Be enthusiastic and you will be fantastic. You have plenty of time to learn, but in a healthy relationship that will all happen very naturally. Trust the power of love and of passion, and don't worry about technique.

Bob Birch

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit:

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