Oral sex obsession
QUESTION:
Memphis(19 year-old woman) from TennesseeEver since I had my first oral experience I've wanted to have oral sex with anybody and everybody. I have never actually engaged in doing it with everybody, but I want to. Am I too open with my wanting to have oral sex?
ANSWER:
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist
The giving and receiving of oral stimulation can be quite pleasurable, and for many women it is the easiest way to reach orgasm. Oral sex is a very intimate act... I think more intimate than intercourse because it involves the taste and aroma of what are often thought of as "dirty" parts. They are not, of course, dirty (if washed) but they are private... and there seems to be something special about taking a "private" part into your mouth. However, oral sex can also be at the other end of the continuum and some women give blowjobs to avoid intimacy, or to stop a man from pressuring her, or to experience the power of getting a man off. You need to ask yourself what giving and receiving oral sex means to you!
If you are compulsively giving blowjobs to strangers, see a therapist. Oral sex is not safe sex and compulsive sex is not loving. If, on the other hand, you fantasize about giving and getting and do not act on these mental images, you might just have an active fantasy life.
Oral sex is fun, pleasurable, loving and intimate. Fantasize all you want, but don't misuse it.
Bob Birch
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit: http://www.oralcaress.com/