Afraid of cheating


Afraid of cheating


your avatar   Tasha, 19 year old woman

I love my boyfriend very much and the last thing I want him to do is cheat on me and lie to me. I really care for him. I just hope he feels the same way about me as I do for him.

How would I know if my boyfriend is cheating on me? How will I know if he really loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me?


    Tina Reed, MA, LPC

Dear Tasha:

The only way to know if he is being faithful to you is to have an honest talk with him. Let him know how you feel, and find out if he feels the same way. If he does feel the same way about you, then the question of unfaithfulness should never be an issue. On the other hand, if his feelings are not the same, then maybe it is time for you to move on, as painful as that can be. Remember, open and honest communication is the key to success in any relationship - before and after marriage.

One final thing to remember, Tasha: You are a very young woman. If one relationship does not work out, it is not the end of the world. I know it may feel that way and it is not a good feeling. But, you will have dozens of boyfriends in your young life before settling down. Very few successful marriages begin with a couple meeting at an early age. I am not saying it can't happen, but it's rare!

Best of Luck,

Tina Reed, MA LPC

This question was answered by Tina Reed, MA, LPC. Tina is a licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois, and is also certified by the National Resource Center for Family-Centered Practice.For more information visit:


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