I can't seem to get into a relationship and when I do it's not for long. I'm not a shy person, I talk to girls all the time and I can make them laugh but I'm always just ''the friend''. All my guy friends are happy in relationships. I have loads of friends that are girls but none of them want a relationship with me. I'm always helping people with their problems and setting people up, but all I want is a lasting and loving relationship. What am I doing wrong?
When I was your age, I was in exactly the same place. Every girl I met became my sister instead of my lover.
And then, I was shortlisted for a scholarship. That meant I had one chance in four of having to leave the country. There wasn't much point in getting a girlfriend, was there? So, I stopped trying.
The next girl I met liked me so much that we got married 6 months later. That was 43 years ago, and we are still married.
Before that, I didn't know what I was doing wrong either. But now I know. I was a lost puppy, looking for a home. Girls liked me OK, but they knew that if they allowed it, I'd become attached to them for life. And this intensity got them to keep a distance. When I relaxed, and just acted myself, and wasn't looking for LOVE, I found it.
All truth is paradox. Because you are desperately seeking a lover, you are getting friends. Go out and find friends, be a friend, and you'll find a love.
Hope this helps,