Verbally abusive boyfriend


Verbally abusive boyfriend


your avatar   Peg 65-year-old woman

I am a retired mother of three grown kids and raising a 15-year-old granddaughter. I have been divorced twice.

I met my new boyfriend of 4 years on a dating website. He is 13 years younger than me. He won't let me talk and interrupts all the time. He is very negative and always talks about the past. We are engaged but are having second thoughts. We always fight and he says it's my fault. He will not go to counseling. What should I do?


    Bob Rich, Ph.D.

Dear Peg,

You know the answer. It is written in bold capitals behind your words. Tell him to pack his bags and go. Tell him it's not a question of fault, but of finding out that the two of you have too many differences to make the relationship work. You can be decent, caring, and at the same time strong in ending the relationship.


This question was answered by Dr. Bob Rich. Dr. Rich has 30+ years of experience as a psychotherapist. Dr. Rich is also a writer and a "mudsmith". Bob is now retired from psychological practice, but still works with people as a counselor.For more information visit:

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