I’ve had the pleasure of working with a number of volunteer psychologists over the years, each with their own unique approach to Queendom visitors’ questions. Dr. Bob Rich, however, is unique. When you read his responses to people who are hurt, who have suffered, who are trying to get their lives back on track, you […]

The goal of Queendom has always been to help people learn more about themselves and gain insight into their emotions, attitudes, behaviors, and life purpose. It’s only through self-knowledge and introspection that we can live life to the fullest and become the best version of ourselves. Years of researching human behavior has taught me that […]

I go through a myriad of emotions on my daily (hourly?) emotional roller coaster rides, but while fear and helplessness feel the worst, boredom is the real jerk. It’s so innocent, so innocuous. In my case, however, boredom is a gateway emotion. When I’m bored, I’ll suddenly find myself walking towards my pantry and grabbing […]

It’s not uncommon for mental health red flags to be dismissed by parents and teachers as “normal” teenage angst—a tendency toward isolation, nervousness, lashing out, or sleeping too much. I would often stay in my room, which was dismissed as an introverted tendency, but I did so because I was actually quite depressed and was […]

You’d think that having Baby Boomers as parents—the original “Me” generation, the hippies, the counter-culturists—would mean my parents would be mellow, go-with-the-flow types. Nope. Something happened when they boxed up their bell bottoms and platform shoes, and traded their peace sign for a wagging, “you’re-in-trouble” finger. I’m a Millennial who grew up in a strict […]

I have MAJOR pet peeves when I’m driving. Like those people who cut across three lanes at the last minute to get off at an exit. Or drivers who don’t signal their thanks when you allow them to merge ahead of you. I really, really wish driving through traffic was like the game Mario Kart, […]

It’s hard not to ignore the common theme of male characters in movies: The stoic silent type that doesn’t blink an eye in the face of danger, the bad boy who is always emotionally out of reach, or the gruff male character who prefers to display his feelings in actions rather than words. It seems […]

I don’t jump on my soap box very often, but I can’t say enough about the importance of having strong, solid self-esteem. Self-esteem forms the basis of every decision you will make—the type of people you become friends with, your choice of career and partner, and even the way you dress. As women age, they […]

Trying to be perfect is Sisyphus-like turmoil: No matter how hard you try, you’re going to mess up sometimes. You can certainly do something very well, even near perfect, like not breaking the yolk when you flip an egg or launching your dirty socks in the laundry basket on the first try, but at some […]

Self-esteem is like a turtle’s shell, a knight’s armor, or, for superhero fans like me, Tony Stark’s Iron Man suit. Why? Because it protects you. Criticism, rejection, and failure will barely dent your solid self-esteem armor. It’s also the one thing that every parent should nurture in their children. By all means, teach them the […]

Over the many years I have been conducting research on human behavior, I’ve found some interesting links between depression and other factors, like procrastination. People often mistakenly believe that procrastinators and simple lazy, but putting things off or being unmotivated to do anything is also a facet of depression. When I was sifting through the […]

Here’s how my typical weekday starts: My alarm goes off at 6:00 a.m., but I snooze it until 6:20 a.m. What’s interesting is that I have trouble falling asleep when I go to bed at night, but absolutely no trouble nodding off again after my alarm goes off. Explain that head-scratcher to me, would you? […]