Mental Health & Well-Being, Personal Development
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Who’s the Most Self-Aware of Them All?
by Queen D, September 6, 2024
Not you, which is why you clicked on this blog. What is this “self-awareness“ I speak of? In simple terms, self-awareness is the ability to see yourself clearly and objectively. It’s like holding up a mirror to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and saying, “Oh, so that’s why I do that!” It’s about understanding your […]
Personal Development
Why Some People Can’t Accept Compliments
by Queen D, March 4, 2020
To say that Jimi Hendrix has thoroughly earned the honor of being considered one of the greatest guitar players and songwriters of all time is irrefutable. Chances are, however, that even after 50+ years of airplay, Jimi would have modestly dismissed his rock legend status. “I don’t really live on compliments,” he said during an […]
Personal Development
A lack of popularity is not as bad as a lack of tact
by Queen D, April 25, 2018
I’ve never quite understood the dynamics of high school, at least not my personal experience. The people who were popular were cruel, two-faced, and hateful, and totally oblivious to the amount of damage that insults and ostracism could do to the self-esteem, the very spirit, of a young, naïve mind. Those, like me, who were […]
Personal Development
It's not just about feelings: Less obvious signs your EQ needs a boost
by Queen D, March 31, 2017
Several years ago, I received an email from someone who had taken our Emotional Intelligence Test on Queendom. He wasn’t very happy that he had scored low on the test, and expressed his discontent by cursing us out and calling us names that I will not reiterate in detail here, as this is generally a […]
Personal Development
Golden Nuggets of Wisdom: Advice for almost any situation (Part 2)
by Queen D, March 24, 2017
In a previous blog, I decided to highlight some of the best pieces of advice we’ve developed at Queendom after 21 years of studying human behavior. Here are some more bits of wisdom: Dealing with emotions and emotional people (i.e. emotional intelligence): Recognize emotions for what they are. We have been taught that emotions are […]
Personal Development
Golden Nuggets of Wisdom: Queendom's best pieces of advice (Part 1)
by Queen D, March 17, 2017
After my car decided to do a little jig at a red light and blink some rather dire warning lights, I found myself having to call for roadside assistance. On the way to my mechanic, the tow trucker inquired as to what I did for a living. “Research and psychometrics is the official title,” I […]
Personal Development
My not-so-optimistic optimism advice
by Queen D, November 18, 2016
I don’t think I’ve ever been a silver-lining kind of person, even as a child. You know how kids always have that “pie-in-the-sky, everything-is-awesome” view of the world? That wasn’t me – at all. I was the Chicken Little, the doomsayer. I was the “OMG-we’re-going-to-get-in-trouble/we’re-all-gonna-die” kid. Try as might, I’m not a very good optimist. […]
Personal Development
Things we should have learned in school – like Emotional Intelligence
by Queen D, September 30, 2016
To this day, I still can’t understand why we had to learn meteorological terms in school. I had no intention of becoming a weather girl. Besides, weather forecasting is about as accurate as astrology. I remember my teacher pointing at me and asking for the definition of “air pressure.” Despite being one of the smartest […]
Personal Development
Words of wisdom gone wrong
by Queen D, July 28, 2016
Advice is kind of like ordering clothes online: It doesn’t fit everyone, but you’ll only really know if it will work for you if you try it. And like fashion, some words of wisdom go out of style. I always strive to offer practical tips in my blogs, but sometimes, the things I hear people […]
Personal Development
Five signs you should invest in personal growth
by Queen D, June 30, 2016
1) You feel like you’re just going through the motions, existing but not really living. I call this the “running on auto-pilot” feeling. You get up in the morning and go to work because you have to pay your bills. When someone asks how you are, your response is always “fine,” even when you’re not […]
Personal Development
There is always someone like you: Life lessons on Queendom
by Queen D, April 29, 2016
Recently, there has been a flood of articles on “consciousness” popping into my news feed on Facebook. Most of them discuss scientists’ attempt to come up with a theory of what it is, how to measure it, and what it means for the rest of us. This is what we love to do in the […]
Personal Development
Bit by the perfectionist bug? More like mauled by the perfectionist lion
by Queen D, April 21, 2016
I was waiting on the far side of the counter at McDonald’s waiting for my tea order. As I leaned against the wall, I noticed that the topmost layer of food trays was slightly askew. I told myself NOT to fix it, even as my obsessively, compulsively directed hand reached out to push the trays […]