The beginning of 2020 has felt just like a Hollywood blockbuster. All those movies we’ve watched about a virus spreading across the world, and experts scrambling to find a cure, has become our reality. But there is a silver lining, if you’re willing to look for it. Life’s adversities also offer the opportunity to learn […]

I need a break from people. Often. When I go on a group vacation, within two days I am already fed up with everyone’s presence. I have to resist the urge to tell them to stick a cork in their jabbering yapper. I am not a mean person, honestly. I am a charming, funny, and […]

Allowing negative thoughts to run rampant in your mind unchallenged, is sort of like trying to raft down the Amazon River without a paddle: Soon enough, you will be submerged in negativity. As a ruminator, I can understand the difficulty of breaking a vicious cycle of thoughts, especially in the midst of the current crisis. […]

Unless you’re an introvert, self-isolation and social distancing does not come naturally to you – nor is it likely to appeal to you. Your morning traipse to the coffee shop and a chat with the barista…gone. A happy hour drink after work…gone. Taking in the latest Oscar-buzz movie, or finally finding out what Tovar Dal […]

To say that Jimi Hendrix has thoroughly earned the honor of being considered one of the greatest guitar players and songwriters of all time is irrefutable. Chances are, however, that even after 50+ years of airplay, Jimi would have modestly dismissed his rock legend status. “I don’t really live on compliments,” he said during an […]

For the past few (several) years now, I’ve made resolutions. “This is it,” I’ll say to myself. “This is the year I lose a few pounds, exercise more, get everything my heart desires, and become more enlightened. I’m also going to make it my goal to worry less and have more fun. This is my […]

In a previous blog, I started discussing the results of a study we conducted at Queendom where we compared the differences between the following groups: People who distrust everyone People who trust others conditionally People who are willing to trust others completely What we discovered in the first half of our study was that our […]

Trust is a fragile thing. It takes time to build, and if you’re anything like me, it could take years. I generally don’t take anyone’s words at face value. It doesn’t matter how many times you assure me that you are trustworthy; it is your actions that will convince me, for better or for worse. […]

How much would it bother you if someone took your parking space, didn’t like “like” your post on Facebook, or interrupted you when you are clearly in the process of reading a book? Indifferent, mildly annoyed, infuriated, or vengeful? I choose all of the above. Then again, I am not a very Zen-like person…but let […]

 I know I shouldn’t make a big deal of minor annoyances. Intellectually, I fully grasp the absurdity of it. In fact, I often say to myself, “Who else but me would find this is maddening? Probably no one.” I…just…can’t…help it! For example: When people put utensils away by simply throwing them in the drawer, so […]

I don’t think I possess the capacity to hold grudges. I mean that literally, in terms of quantity, space, dimensions. This is because the volume of emotions I feel on a regular basis leaves little room for anything else. I am ballooning with pent-up feelings. I also don’t hold grudges because even when I’ve been […]

In last week’s blog, I discussed the results of a recent study we conducted at Queendom in which we compared two groups: Emotional “reflectors” are feelers. They are tuned in to their emotions and allow themselves to experience both positive and negative feelings. When making decisions, they may conduct research and use a pro/con list, […]