Not you, which is why you clicked on this blog. What is this “self-awareness“ I speak of? In simple terms, self-awareness is the ability to see yourself clearly and objectively. It’s like holding up a mirror to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and saying, “Oh, so that’s why I do that!” It’s about understanding your […]

Let’s face it—life is a rollercoaster. With all its ups and downs, taking care of your mental health is more important than ever. But here’s the thing: improving your mental well-being doesn’t have to involve major lifestyle overhauls. Sometimes, it’s the small, daily habits that can make the biggest difference. So, let’s dive into 10 […]

The beginning of 2020 felt just like a Hollywood blockbuster. All those movies we’ve watched about a virus spreading across the world, and experts scrambling to find a cure, became our reality. But there is a silver lining, if you’re willing to look for it. Life’s adversities also offer the opportunity to learn a tough […]

Let’s continue our discussion (from here and here) on how depression, can change the content and trajectory of your thoughts. Here are some of the lies that your depression might be telling you: “The world is a cruel place.” I will not sugarcoat the truth: The fact is that some people can be inexplicably and […]

In last week’s blog, I began a discussion on how depression can twist your thoughts around. I know the emotional, psychological, and physical struggle that depression can be. Finding your way through depression is like trying to find the light switch in a dark room; trying to sort through the “depression” thoughts and the “real” […]

I am in a constant battle with my mind. It’s like that iconic scene you’ll see in all western movies: Scene: High noon. Two cowboys stand a few yards apart, staring each other down. A tumbleweed rolls across the screen. Me: It’s time for us to stop this feud. We’re not enemies. My mind: Go […]

A few years ago I was watching an old documentary on YouTube featuring motivational speaker Louise Hay. She walked across the stage, turned to the studio audience, and then asked them to take out the mirror that she had requested they bring along with them. With mirror in hand, the audience was then told to […]

Yes, regular readers of my blog know I don’t advocate blame. Parenting style does have a major impact on a child’s development, but you can’t spend the rest of your life blaming your parents for your hang-ups or unhappiness. At some point, you have to take full control of your personal growth. However, I write […]

It bothers me to no end when a woman short-changes herself – maybe because I do it to myself fairly often. More specifically, I have an acquaintance who has refused to date anyone for the past decade because she still pines for someone…who used her and tossed her aside (and slept with one of her […]

Any story that starts with “In my time…” will no doubt lead to a lecture on how older houses, older cars, and older generations were made of sterner stuff. After all, most grandparents and great-grandparents alive today likely lived through at least one war and/or one major economic crisis, often surviving through sheer will and […]

I’ve had the pleasure of working with a number of volunteer psychologists over the years, each with their own unique approach to Queendom visitors’ questions. Dr. Bob Rich is unique, however. When you read his responses to people who are hurt, who have suffered, who are trying to get their lives back on track, you will […]

The goal of Queendom has always been to help people learn more about themselves and gain insight into their emotions, attitudes, behaviors, and life purpose. It’s only through self-knowledge and introspection that we can live life to the fullest and become the best version of ourselves. Years of researching human behavior has taught me that […]