The Forgotten Skill
by Queen D, April 17, 2013
I don’t mind talkative people. As long as someone is filling in the empty spaces of silence, I’m perfectly content sitting back and letting the person prattle on. My only pet peeve is when said prattler doesn’t listen when I speak, and mistakes my moving lips for an optical illusion combining light and my shiny […]
Sometimes you have to take the bark and the bite
by Queen D, April 10, 2013
From musicians and athletes to Nobel Peace Prize winners, business moguls and presidents, every professional is criticized about their work and their performance – and most will agree that they are better for it. Even the critics or critiques that we truly hate push us to defy them by being even better than what they […]
Open Mouth, Insert Foot – The Personal and Professional Risks of Poor Social Skills
by Queen D, November 28, 2012
Poor social skills can leave a lasting impression. Struggle as one might, it’s a lot easier to recall that sore thumb of the group whose skills when interacting with others made people squirm. There are those who have an uncanny knack for building a rapport with others, who make people feel at ease in their […]
Being Perfect Has Its Flaws
by Queen D, October 31, 2012
Stephen Manes, in his book “Be a Perfect Person in Just Three Days,” goes on a nice little tirade about how wonderfully freeing it is to be imperfect. He states: “Perfect is never doing anything wrong – which means never doing anything at all. Perfect is boring! So you’re not perfect! Wonderful! Have fun! Eat […]
Self-monitoring: Should we just say what we think and feel?
by Queen D, September 26, 2012
Verbal Diarrhea – it’s a tendency that makes you want to cringe. People with this quirk will say whatever comes to mind, without thinking of the social consequences. They don’t feel the need to self-monitor or “police” what they say. “God gave me a mouth to speak,” expressed a low self-monitor to me, after an […]
Gender differences in Math intelligence: Is it a gift?
by Queen D, August 29, 2012
In an episode of “The Simpsons”, Springfield Elementary is split into a boys-only and girls-only school. This compels Lisa to dress like a boy (with the ironic name of Jack Boyman), in order to benefit from the math lessons that the girls had been denied. After being rewarded for being the best math student in […]
Emotional Intelligence – Why this kind of smart matters
by Queen D, June 13, 2012
There is a reason why, during mummification, ancient Egyptians removed the brain completely but left the heart in the body. They felt that the heart, not the brain, was the center of emotions as well as intelligence. “Emotional intelligence” in post-mummy times refers to the ability to deal with your own and other people’s emotions. […]
Welcome to the Queendom Blog!
by Queen D, June 5, 2012
Greetings! First, an introduction: I am a test developer and researcher for Queendom.com, an online mental health site that has been around since 1996. Aside from articles, polls, and an advice section, we are best -known for our tests – we assess everything from intelligence to personality, career aptitude, mental health, and attitudes/values. We are […]