Double header problems


Double header problems


your avatar   Josh (19 year-old man)

When I have sex for the second time in one night, my penis often hurts and I am unable to have an orgasm, or my penis will feel fine and it will still take entirely too long for me to climax. Most times my girlfriend starts to hurt and I just have to stop. It's frustrating for her and me because she doesn't think she can satisfy me, and that I'm getting bored with her. Is there anything I can do so that I can have an orgasm during the second sexual encounter in one night?


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

You are worried about not being able to finish a double header, but most men never even get up to bat twice in a row. You and your girlfriend should learn to trust your bodies... they are telling you something. If you are starting to hurt and she is getting sore, it means your bodies are crying out "Enough already!" Make the first time around memorable and stop worrying about doing it twice. There is nothing broken, so stop trying to fix it!

I hope there is more to your relationship than just sex, and neither of you are basing any judgments about it solely on the basis of how many times you are able to orgasm. If this is so, even if you could manage a triple header, the relationship would be doomed. You can't screw a relationship together!

Bob Birch

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit:


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