I have a sexual fantasy I really want to realize, but I'm not sure if it is wise. I would like to watch my wife having sex with a black male, and watch her getting pleasure with him. Am I normal?
A fair number of men fantasize about or find pleasure in watching their woman having sex with another man, and at times, the more forbidden or the more kinky the fantasy, the stronger the desire.
There are inherent problems in this behavior . . . risking unexpected jealousy, the risk of your wife preferring sex with that other man, the risk of bringing a sexually transmitted disease into the marriage, or the risk that your wife will think you are a hopeless pervert and leave.
No need to beat yourself up about the fantasy. Fantasies are harmless and some are best kept only as private mind games. Be careful.
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit: http://www.oralcaress.com/