Premature Ejaculation


Premature Ejaculation


your avatar   Anonymous Guy

I would like to know if there is a permanent cure for early ejaculation.


    Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., ACS Certified Sexologist

There are two phrases in this question that require comment: "Permanent cure" implies that rapid ejaculation is an illness. It is not. In fact, the vast majority of young healthy males will, with steady thrusting, ejaculate rapidly. Rapid ejaculation is not an illness, and thus there is no cure, permanent or otherwise.

Then there is the phrase "early ejaculation." What is early? Is there a late ejaculation? How quick is too quick? Remember, the majority of women are not orgasmic during intercourse, no matter how long the man can last.

That out of the way, let's talk briefly about a topic that really requires a book to explain. Men can learn to delay ejaculation, but it is not a "cure." I like to think of it as learning to manage the response, and this management is something that a man has to be aware of each time he makes love. Pills and ointments will not do it, and even condoms might not significantly slow a man down. A man needs to be relaxed and aware at all times, for it is so easy to get out of control. Very few men can thrust wildly and steadily for more than a few minutes and few can ejaculate on command.

Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., is a retired sex therapist, now identifying himself as a sexologist and adult sexuality educator. He now devotes his time to writing educational and self-help books for adults.For more information visit:


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