Dream job is a nightmare

Dream job is a nightmare


your avatar   Betty, 23-year-old woman

I work hard in life. I got many rewards in high school and college and now I am a veterinarian.

I am doing well in my job but I am not being respected. My boss and co-workers call me names. I have been waiting for this job ever since I was a little girl. What do I do?


    Bob Rich, Ph.D.

Betty, workplace bullying is against the law. At a minimum, research what legal avenues you are able to take. If you're smart enough to qualify as a vet, you're smart enough to work out how to use that as a weapon, even if you don't choose to actually make an official complaint. You should quietly gather evidence, like abusive emails, text messages, phone calls. You can line up witnesses who can bear out the fact of abuse.

Second, you worked very hard to become a vet. You did not aim for just this one job. Quietly check out what else is available, and start sending applications. Once you are ready to move, you can put my previous suggestion to use. Make an official complaint, get them to experience the consequences of their actions, and also protect other recipients of abuse from these people. It is not all right, and you can be an agent in social change. Because you are already on the way to leaving, they won't be able to make your life even worse.

You're welcome to email me back. Your new grandfather,


This question was answered by Dr. Bob Rich. Dr. Rich has 30+ years of experience as a psychotherapist. Dr. Rich is also a writer and a "mudsmith". Bob is now retired from psychological practice, but still works with people as a counselor.For more information visit: http://anxietyanddepression-help.com

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