Anger Management – Bottling it up or letting it out?
by Queen D, August 1, 2012
Anger, at best, has a checkered reputation. Keeping it bottled up is bad for your health. Venting it without a certain degree of restraint is destructive, both literally and figuratively. Rumination or obsessing over a perceived transgression will make your anger even worse. Cathartic release by dropping a 50lb bowling ball through your ex’s windshield […]
Are you a doormat, dominator, or diplomat?
by Queen D, July 25, 2012
Salespeople tend to intimidate me. “This necklace will look so good with that top you’re buying.” When I hear something of that variation I’ll suddenly feel a tightness in my chest, because I know I don’t want that necklace, but I don’t want to seem mean. At best, I’ll muster a “I’ll come back for […]
Handle with Care – Contents Contain Fragile Ego
by Queen D, July 18, 2012
No matter how much we criticize others, point out their mistakes or mock them, we are still our own worst enemy. We mentally beat ourselves up for every mistake and failure. Even people who take pleasure in finding fault in others (we all known them and secretly desire to punch them) are almost always seeking […]
Are you the optimist’s doughnut or the pessimist’s hole?
by Queen D, July 11, 2012
There are some benefits to having a more cynical view of life. As Pulitzer-Prize winner George F. Will put it, “The nice part about being a pessimist is that you are constantly being either proven right or pleasantly surprised.” Insightful, don’t you think? Research by Gibson and Sanbonmatsu (2004) suggests that pessimists may be better […]
What motivates most people to work hard? Hint: It’s not $$$
by Queen D, July 4, 2012
There’s got to be something about your job that gets you out of bed in the morning. That push that makes you roll over instead of hitting the snooze button the umpteenth time, that kick that gets you through idling traffic, that jolt that keeps you coming back even though there’s that one colleague or […]
Emotional Eating: The only therapy that comes with extra calories
by Queen D, June 27, 2012
There’s a reason why, after a sad break-up in a movie or TV show, we’ll see the character with a spoon in her hand and a bucket of ice cream on her lap, sitting next to a box of tissues (Note: I use women as an example here – both genders can be emotional eaters). […]
Flirting – Masculine bravado vs. Subtle female seduction
by Queen D, June 20, 2012
After driving noticeably above the speed limit and being pulled over by a man in uniform, I had no intention of flirting. Really. But as the officer came up to my window and went through the typical protocol (“Do you know how fast you were going miss?”), it’s almost as if a natural instinct took […]
Emotional Intelligence – Why this kind of smart matters
by Queen D, June 13, 2012
There is a reason why, during mummification, ancient Egyptians removed the brain completely but left the heart in the body. They felt that the heart, not the brain, was the center of emotions as well as intelligence. “Emotional intelligence” in post-mummy times refers to the ability to deal with your own and other people’s emotions. […]
Welcome to the Queendom Blog!
by Queen D, June 5, 2012
Greetings! First, an introduction: I am a test developer and researcher for Queendom.com, an online mental health site that has been around since 1996. Aside from articles, polls, and an advice section, we are best -known for our tests – we assess everything from intelligence to personality, career aptitude, mental health, and attitudes/values. We are […]