A few years ago I was watching an old documentary on YouTube featuring motivational speaker Louise Hay. She walked across the stage, turned to the studio audience, and then asked them to take out the mirror that she had requested they bring along with them. With mirror in hand, the audience was then told to […]

It was only recently that my brother, ever so reluctantly, joined Facebook for the first time. It was the cheapest way for us to stay in contact while he took on a job on the other end of the globe. Social media isn’t his thing. Brand names aren’t his thing. Mainstream television is not his […]

It’s hard for me to pin down the exact reason why I hate shopping. I think it’s a combination of the crowds, the lack of parking, the pushy salespeople, and the need to part with my hard-earned cash. Don’t mistake this for miserliness – I spend more on other people than I do on myself. […]

I’ve never quite understood the dynamics of high school, at least not my personal experience. The people who were popular were cruel, two-faced, and hateful, and totally oblivious to the amount of damage that insults and ostracism could do to the self-esteem, the very spirit, of a young, naïve mind. Those, like me, who were […]

For some it’s coffee. For others it’s a vigorous workout. For most of us, however, a morning ritual consists of the simple matter of trying to find a reason to roll out of bed. We all have a higher self, whether you call it your soul, inner being, God, your conscience, consciousness or the universe. […]

It’s a question I often ask of myself. I have the luxury of having a handful of close friends and family members who I can talk to when I am going through a difficult time—I did so just last week—but I also found myself hesitating, my finger hovering over the call button. Why? I did […]

Yes, regular readers of my blog know I don’t advocate blame. Although parenting style does have a significant impact on a child’s development, you can’t spend the rest of your life blaming your parents for your hang-ups or unhappiness. At some point, you have to take full control of your personal growth. However, I write […]

It bothers me to no end when a woman short-changes herself—maybe because I do it to myself fairly often. More specifically, I have an acquaintance who has refused to date anyone for the past decade because she still pines for someone who used her for her job skills, tossed her aside, and cheated on her. […]

Any story that starts with “In my time…” will no doubt lead to a lecture on how older houses, older cars, and older generations were made of sterner stuff. After all, most grandparents and great-grandparents alive today likely lived through at least one war and/or one major economic crisis, often surviving through sheer will and […]

I’ve had the pleasure of working with a number of volunteer psychologists over the years, each with their own unique approach to Queendom visitors’ questions. Dr. Bob Rich, however, is unique. When you read his responses to people who are hurt, who have suffered, who are trying to get their lives back on track, you […]

The goal of Queendom has always been to help people learn more about themselves and gain insight into their emotions, attitudes, behaviors, and life purpose. It’s only through self-knowledge and introspection that we can live life to the fullest and become the best version of ourselves. Years of researching human behavior has taught me that […]

I was lying in bed one morning, half-listening to a tech guy on the radio talking about his choice for phone app of the week, when he mentioned something interesting: Facebook automatically filters messages from people with whom you are not friends. “You may have TONS of secret messages that never ended up in your […]