Are you the type of person who: Regularly buys gifts for people without expecting anything in return? Throws dinner parties for every friend’s birthday? Pays everyone’s bill at a fancy restaurant when it’s your birthday? My friend does all three. If you try to pay her back for her kindness, she will get really, really angry. […]

In a previous blog, I started discussing the results of a study we conducted at Queendom where we compared the differences between the following groups: People who distrust everyone People who trust others conditionally People who are willing to trust others completely What we discovered in the first half of our study was that our […]

It takes an open mind to believe in a supernatural power, be it a divine being, the universe, Mother Nature, or the higher self. However, according to research we conducted at Queendom, people who are open to the possibility of a supernatural essence don’t limit themselves to strictly religious or spiritual beliefs. They are, in […]

Trust is a fragile thing. It takes time to build, and if you’re anything like me, it could take years. I generally don’t take anyone’s words at face value. It doesn’t matter how many times you assure me that you are trustworthy; it is your actions that will convince me, for better or for worse. […]

How much would it bother you if someone took your parking space, didn’t like “like” your post on Facebook, or interrupted you when you are clearly in the process of reading a book? Indifferent, mildly annoyed, infuriated, or vengeful? I choose all of the above. Then again, I am not a very Zen-like person…but let […]

 I know I shouldn’t make a big deal of minor annoyances. Intellectually, I fully grasp the absurdity of it. In fact, I often say to myself, “Who else but me would find this is maddening? Probably no one.” I…just…can’t…help it! For example: When people put utensils away by simply throwing them in the drawer, so […]

In last week’s blog, I began discussing the results of a study we conducted at Queendom: What are the characteristics of people who truly like themselves? What traits do they possess? How do they differ from people who don’t like themselves? Here’s what the study revealed: (Note: Scores range on a scale from 0 to […]

“I think I’m going to change my last name to Awesomeface,” my brother said to me one night. I smirked. “Do I dare ask why?” “Isn’t it obvious?” he asked. “I’m awesome.” My brother didn’t always present himself with the air of confidence that he has in spades now. I can remember only a few […]

I don’t think I possess the capacity to hold grudges. I mean that literally, in terms of quantity, space, dimensions. This is because the volume of emotions I feel on a regular basis leaves little room for anything else. I am ballooning with pent-up feelings. I also don’t hold grudges because even when I’ve been […]

Let’s continue our discussion (from here and here) on how depression, can change the content and trajectory of your thoughts. Here are some of the lies that your depression might be telling you: “The world is a cruel place.” I will not sugarcoat the truth: The fact is that some people can be inexplicably and […]

In last week’s blog, I began a discussion on how depression can twist your thoughts around. I know the emotional, psychological, and physical struggle that depression can be. Finding your way through depression is like trying to find the light switch in a dark room; trying to sort through the “depression” thoughts and the “real” […]

I am in a constant battle with my mind. It’s like that iconic scene you’ll see in all western movies: Scene: High noon. Two cowboys stand a few yards apart, staring each other down. A tumbleweed rolls across the screen. Me: It’s time for us to stop this feud. We’re not enemies. My mind: Go […]