In a champagne induced epiphany, my friend decided that it was time for her to join a dating website. I listened in as she filled out the customary personality questionnaire, mostly because she insisted on reading each question out loud. Having been one of the authors of Queendom’s “Matchscale” questionnaire (currently being used on some […]

Several years ago, I received an email from someone who had taken Queendom’s Emotional Intelligence Test. He wasn’t very happy with his low score and expressed his discontent by cursing us out and calling us names that I will not reiterate in detail here, as this is generally a PG blog. However, it was something […]

After my car decided to do a little jig at a red light and blink some rather dire warning lights, I found myself having to call for roadside assistance. On the way to my mechanic, the tow truck driver inquired as to what I did for a living. “Research and psychometrics is the official title,” […]

Here’s how my typical weekday starts: My alarm goes off at 6:00 a.m., but I snooze it until 6:20 a.m. What’s interesting is that I have trouble falling asleep when I go to bed at night, but absolutely no trouble nodding off again after my alarm goes off. Explain that head-scratcher to me, would you? […]

“What am I doing wrong?” It’s my little habit. I’ll drag myself to bed after falling asleep in front of the TV, hopeful that it’ll be one of those rare nights where I’ll actually sleep through without waking up. But there I was, wide awake, staring at the ceiling, my cat a furry bump under […]

I’m often curious about how I would have turned out had I been allowed a little more freedom as a child. What would my personality have been like? What field would I have pursued? I don’t know why, but for some reason, I picture myself with daisies in my long-flowing hair, wearing printed summer dresses […]

“The women who follows the crowed will usually go no further that the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.” Albert Einstein When I looked at data from men who took Queendom’s Gender Roles Test, I noticed a mix of traditional, old-school attitudes […]

My cousin is generally a mellow, quirky teenager. She watches Japanese anime and recently decided that she wants a t-shirt with Bob Ross’ face. So imagine my surprise when her parents recently confessed that she missed the first three weeks of school because of debilitating anxiety—and I mean hyperventilating, turning-blue-ready-to-pass-out anxiety. When I asked her […]

I don’t think I’ve ever been a silver-lining kind of person, even as a child. You know how kids always have that “pie-in-the-sky, everything-is-awesome” view of the world? That wasn’t me at all. I was the Chicken Little, the doomsayer. I was the “OMG-we’re-going-to-get-in-trouble/we’re-all-gonna-die” kid. Try as might, I’m not a very good optimist. I […]

Manipulators and narcissists are like octopi—always reaching out with their tentacles to wrap around you, but instead of suction cups, they use guilt, lies, and flattery to hold on. Just when you think you’ve escaped, they squirt a cloud of confusion and slip back into your life. And, much like an octopus, they’re masters of […]

I have an acquaintance who is an accounting manager in a major firm with a salary of over $150,000 a year. She’s intelligent, fashion-forward, and speaks three languages fluently. Do I envy her? Kind of…with the exception of her absolutely horrible taste in men. She married someone whom she’s been financially supporting for the past […]

Before moving into my new home, the seller and I met up at what would soon be my place to sign a few papers, with both of our realtors in tow. As we chatted casually about our jobs, she mentioned that, being a professor, she considered herself an excellent judge of character. “You’re like an […]