Advice is kind of like ordering clothes online: It doesn’t fit everyone, but you’ll only really know if it will work for you if you try it. And like fashion, some words of wisdom go out of style. I always strive to offer practical tips in my blogs, but sometimes, the things I hear people […]

I don’t have many fond memories of high school. I was bullied a couple of years, and then I simply became invisible. It took a great deal of effort to persuade myself to get out of bed every morning, especially since I wasn’t a good sleeper. No matter how heavy my mind was with worries, […]

In a previous blog, we started looking at the top ten emotional intelligence competencies that contribute to relationship satisfaction. Let’s take a look at the rest: Comfort with Emotions Score for the satisfied group: 63 Score for the unsatisfied group: 44 Your emotions are a part of who you are; to deny them is to […]

I’m going to be honest: When I first heard the theories on emotional intelligence, I thought it was a ridiculous fad. It sounded like someone was trying to sell people an idea (and a few books) on a wanky, fluffy concept. It reminded me of that episode on the Simpsons where a self-help guru made […]

1) You feel like you’re just going through the motions, existing but not really living. I call this the “running on auto-pilot” feeling. You get up in the morning and go to work because you have to pay your bills. When someone asks how you are, your response is always “fine,” even when you’re not […]

I’ve always found that watching sports with other people adds to the excitement. It infuses the room and everyone in it with a contagious, electric vibe. Playoff time is the only occasion when I am willing to wait an hour for a table in an already overcrowded restaurant with so-so food. I love hearing the […]

The media often casts Millennials as selfish, self-entitled, and self-absorbed, and driven by egocentric values, like money, status, and recognition. What fascinates me is that some of these denouncers are Baby Boomers who have conveniently forgotten that they come from the original “Me generation.” Anecdotal evidence is worth little in the scientific and research community, but […]

I don’t know how to change a flat. I also don’t know how to make cheesecake, dye my hair, fill in a cavity or wrap presents that are not perfectly square or rectangular. So when it comes to practical stuff, I am willing to turn to others for help. However, if I’m struggling with an […]

“She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away, she adjusted her sails.” Elizabeth Edwards When I look back on some of the challenges I’ve been through – the health scares, the break-ups, the losses, the toxic relationships – I wonder to myself how I managed to survive and thrive […]

I am well-aware of the slippery slope that is rumination. You start off thinking about an issue that’s bothering you. If you don’t keep tabs on the twists and turns your thoughts make, one wrong turn, one negative thought, will breed another and another. You start to feel helpless. You start to doubt your ability […]

In last week’s blog, I was highlighting some of the most interesting results of the studies we have conducted at Queendom in the last 20 years. Check out these smash hits: #11 – Life satisfaction is not just about what’s in your bank account. Here’s what data from our Life Satisfaction Test reveals about people […]

We’ll be celebrating 20 years on the web at Queendom.com – that’s 20 years of developing personality and aptitude tests, 20 years of conducting research on human behavior, and 20 years of gaining a clearer understanding of what it means to be human in the 21st century. In short, this is my conclusion about human […]