Attitude & Lifestyle

Why it might be better to be an optimist

by Queen D, April 20, 2017

Not having cable often means that I watch a lot of DVDs. I recently watched (re-watched) the episode of The Simpsons where Homer tries to scam people out of money with an auto-dialer. The phone message was as follows: “Greetings, friend. Do you wish to look as happy as me? Well, you’ve got the power […]

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Personality

The Different Types of Perfectionists

by Queen D, April 14, 2017

I was recently asked to comment on the media’s effect on women’s self-image. While I reprove the tactics advertisers use to draw customers – by basically telling you in subtle terms that you’re a loser if you don’t use their product or service – it’s not a cause and effect relationship. Seeing size two runway […]

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Love & Relationships

Jealousy: From the inside out

by Queen D, April 7, 2017

In a champagne induced epiphany, my friend decided that it was time to end her single-hood and join a dating website. I listened in as she filled out the profile questionnaire, although mostly because she insisted on reading each question out loud. Having been one of the authors of Queendom’s “Matchscale” questionnaire (currently being used […]

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Personal Development

It's not just about feelings: Less obvious signs your EQ needs a boost

by Queen D, March 31, 2017

Several years ago, I received an email from someone who had taken our Emotional Intelligence Test on Queendom. He wasn’t very happy that he had scored low on the test, and expressed his discontent by cursing us out and calling us names that I will not reiterate in detail here, as this is generally a […]

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Personal Development

Golden Nuggets of Wisdom: Advice for almost any situation (Part 2)

by Queen D, March 24, 2017

In a previous blog, I decided to highlight some of the best pieces of advice we’ve developed at Queendom after 21 years of studying human behavior. Here are some more bits of wisdom: Dealing with emotions and emotional people (i.e. emotional intelligence): Recognize emotions for what they are. We have been taught that emotions are […]

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Personal Development

Golden Nuggets of Wisdom: Queendom's best pieces of advice (Part 1)

by Queen D, March 17, 2017

After my car decided to do a little jig at a red light and blink some rather dire warning lights, I found myself having to call for roadside assistance. On the way to my mechanic, the tow trucker inquired as to what I did for a living. “Research and psychometrics is the official title,” I […]

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Mental Health & Well-Being

The Cerberus Effect: Three underlying factors of poor body image

by Queen D, March 10, 2017

“Your body hears everything your mind says.” Naomi Judd I am not going to deny the networking factor and sheer pleasure of social media, but wow, it’s a horrible medium sometimes. Some people feel that they have absolute license to spew some of the ugliest, hateful stuff I’ve ever read, with body shaming being one of […]

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Attitude & Lifestyle

Our values are only as strong as our conviction

by Queen D, March 3, 2017

“A ‘no’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” Mahatma Gandhi I value intelligence. I devour knowledge like I devour a fresh order of crispy, delicious fries. If a topic interests me I’ll turn over every stone to learn more. But I didn’t […]

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Mental Health & Well-Being

5 everyday activities to boost psychological well-being

by Queen D, February 23, 2017

Here’s how my typical week-day starts: My alarm goes off at 6:30 a.m., but I snooze it until 7 a.m. – and by that I mean my alarm is set up so that it will ring every 10 minutes, pulling me out of a deep sleep and often a dream every single time. What’s interesting […]

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Attitude & Lifestyle

Redefining Normal

by Queen D, February 17, 2017

“Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.” Morticia Addams A couple of years ago we helped Reebok with a personality test for their highly successful “Be More Human” campaign. Part of the research that went into this assessment came from the tons of interviews we conducted with […]

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Love & Relationships

Love Is Knowing When To Fight

by Queen D, February 10, 2017

Whenever reporters capture feel-good stories of couples who have celebrated 50 years of marriage (or more), the always ask the same question: “What is the key to a long, happy marriage?” And nearly every time, the happy couple offers the same age-old wisdom, like not going to bed angry, working out differences, knowing how to […]

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Attitude & Lifestyle

What are they doing right? The secrets of happy people

by Queen D, February 3, 2017

“What am I doing wrong?” It’s my little habit. I’ll drag myself to bed after falling asleep in front of the TV, hopeful that it’ll be one those rare nights where I’ll actually sleep through without waking up. But there I was, wide awake, staring at the ceiling, my cat a furry bump under the […]

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